No one enjoys thinking about their parents, grandparents or (god forbid) their great grandparents having enjoyable sex, but we all know it was happening. The fact is, people have been getting down with the aid of sex toys for over 2,000 years. They sure have come a long way in both design and social acceptability, but their basic purpose has always been the quest for the perfect “O”. If you’re looking to buy a sexy gift for your partner, here are a few questions you can ask to make sure you get the perfect toy to set the mood.

Who Will Be Using The Sex Toy?

What sex toy you buy will have a lot to do with who is going to be using it. There are sex toys made especially for men, for women, and for couples to use together. You might be surprised to find out that Bustle reported up to 52% of long term couples have used sex toys in the bedroom together. The latest trend in sex toys is being “genderless” to be more inclusive.

If you looking to buy a sex toy for a female partner, you might get some ideas from this GiftWits list of the 25 best Dildos on the market.

What Kind Of Toy Do They Like Best?

There are literally so many types of sex toys, it isn’t just about penis-shaped dildos or vibrators anymore. You can get vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, prostate stimulators, kegel weights, masturbation sleeves, anal beads, cock rings and so much more. You can choose a toy that vibrates, that’s waterproof, and made out of lots of different materials. You can get sex toys made of silicone, plastic, or even glass. It all depends on what type of sensation you are looking for.

The handy-dandy vibrator is certainly very popular with women and can be used by men too or by couples. Here’s a fun fact about vibrators and other sex toys that are made overseas. A lot of sex toys are manufactured in Asia, in places where it’s not completely legal to be making and selling such items. That’s why you’ll often see sex toys that are brightly colored or shaped like animals so get around the laws.

Where On The Body Will The Toy Be Used?

A lot of sex toys are used on the genitals but there are other erogenous zones to consider as well. Besides the obvious, there are sex toys that focus on anal play and nipples as well. Things that suck, penetrate, or vibrate feel good on many body parts. Find out what your partner needs in a sex toy to make sure to provide a satisfying experience.

What Do They Think A Sex Toy Should Look And Feel Like?

According to Alex Kapinski at NJGamblingFun “Sex toys have gotten hyper-realistic these days with designs that look very much like real body parts and materials that complete the fantasy with the perfect feel. But not everyone enjoys their sex toys to look, er, real. If holding a life-like silicon ding dong isn’t your thing, you can go for a more fun bright colored toy in a variety of less obvious shapes.”

The key is to buy your partner a toy they feel comfortable using, otherwise, it’s just a paperweight for the darkest corner of your closet.

What Is Your Budget?

There are sex toys out there for every budget. You can get super cheap toys from discount online retailers or even on eBay, or you can opt to make your own sex toys from things you already have at home. For those of you looking to spend a little more, there’s something for every single price range you can imagine.

Let’s start with the most ludicrously expensive sex toy you can buy. It’s called The Pearl Royale and it’s a custom made vibrator made of solid platinum and adorned with diamonds, sapphires, and pearls. It will cost you a cool $1.3 million dollars, according to Forbes Magazine.

You can also get elaborate sex accessories to play with like this complicated-looking sex swing that costs over $500..

Does This Toy Need Accessories?

Now that you’ve narrowed down the sex toy playing field, it’s time to shop. Before you hit the checkout button, however, stop to ask yourself, “does this toy need accessories?” There’s nothing more disappointing than getting a vibrating toy as a gift that doesn’t come with batteries. Check to see if and what kind of batteries your chosen toy takes. Maybe your toy is best used with lube? Be sure to pick some up. All sex toys need to be properly cleaned and most sex shops will sell a cleaning solution that is perfectly formulated for the toy and body parts it’s going to touch. Don’t let that little detail fall to your partner, especially if playing with toys is new to you and they might not already have a drawer full.

Where To Buy The Best Sex Toys

Sex shops are old-school, today’s savvy sex toy shopper is hitting “add to cart” online. You can buy from individual boutique shops or from giants like Amazon. Your purchase is usually very discreet with vague credit card item descriptions and plain packaging. Not that it needs to be, as sex toy owning is growing more and more popular each year. Millennials are very laid back about their sex toy purchases. Besides Amazon, you can shop at other popular e-commerce adult sites like Jack & Jill or Good Vibes.

Sex toys are a great way to add a little excitement to the bedroom and they can be heaven-sent for women that have trouble reaching a climax with intercourse alone. Pick something up your partner will truly love using these tips.